"Slaves" to our past

You do not have to think the way you have always thought, you do not have to act the way you have always acted, and you don't have to live the life you have always lived.

Do you believe this statement?

I am amazed at the number of people who have become "slaves" to things that have happened to them in their past. They use some event or events to justify their poor behaviors. When these people are taken to task for their bad behavior they usually reply, "I can't because...." or "I would like to change, but....".  "My marriage is failing  because my parents never taught me how to love" or "My parents verbally abused me as a child" or "How can I forgive this person after what they did to me".  I think back to the expression I heard somewhere, "People believe what truth they have to believe to go on being the way they are" and "Your past doesn't control your present any more than a mirror controls what you look like".

Many of us have bought into the lie that somehow we were a "victim". "The devil made me do it". We destroy every relationship we have and somehow think it not our fault. We always think the fault belongs to someone else, we are simply "victims". It is not our fault! People who buy into this lie allow their past events to enslave them and rob them of joy, peace, hope, and love.   


I am not trying to trivialize things you have experienced in your past.  Many people have suffered greatly at the hands of others. Many times those closest to us hurt us the most.  But we don't have to become "slaves" to or victims of our past. We don't have to hurt others, the way we were hurt. We do not have to treat others the way we were treated. We can forgive another even it they do not deserve to be forgiven. Forgiving those who have mistreated us sets us free.

You do not have to think the way you have always thought, you do not have to act the way you have always acted, and you don't have to live the life you have always lived. 

Change can be very hard, but everyone can change. The first step to making change is to acknowledging we need to change.  The second step is finding the people who can help guide us through the change. Someone who will hold us accountable to make the changes we need to make.

Life Coaching is all about helping others break the "slavery" of our past. Can we help you change?  Contact us today.